Couples Counseling

Intimacy is hard work! Intimacy must withstand the frustrations and maneuvering of busy lives, families, and changing times. It is easy within the context of the American life to lose a sense of intimacy and forget how it was that we got there in the first place. Have you ever heard yourself say:

• This isn’t working any more
• I can’t trust you
• I don’t know who you are
• I’m tired of trying to please you
• I feel betrayed and let down
• I am lonely although I am married

It is not unusual for couples who are committed and want their relationship to work to go through difficult times. These times, if processed well, provide the opportunity to gain deeper awareness and intimacy over the long term. Separation and divorce are always available, but it is possible to forge a path of compassion, forgiveness, reconnection, and longings that can revitalize a relationship and set it back on the path of intimacy that is fulfilling for both parties.

Benefits The Human Thread has to offer:

• Discovery of “how we got here” (beyond the obvious)
• Tackle beliefs that are non-relational
• Realize the full effects of stress on a relationship
• Learn new strategies for supporting the relationship without being controlled
• Create meaningful “rituals” that support the making of intimacy
• Use the difficult and painful events as stepping stones for transformation and understanding

Staying the course during difficult times in a relationship can be profoundly important to the relationship and adult maturity. It is having the courage to stay when everything in you wants to run or blame your spouse for how you feel. In order to make it to the other side it is important for each partner to realize their own part in the erosion process. Difficult times in a relationship do not happen in a vacuum. It is human nature to withhold and withdraw when tired, frustrated, and in pain. It is these tendencies in all of us that set intimate relationships up for difficult times.

How to tell if you need help getting to “the other side”:

• You keep going round and round with the same arguments that never get resolved
• Pain from the past or present keeps interfering with the growth of the relationship
• Levels of irritability, frustration, and anger are escalating
• The kids ask if you are going to get a divorce
• You feel lonely in the relationship

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